How to Change your Attitude with Metaphors

Change your Mindset Change Your Attitude – Day 10

MetaphorsWe are now on day 10 of your positive attitude challenge 2.0.

We are working on making the world a better place by making us a better person.

Your attitude is one of the most important traits that determine your happiness and your success.  Have a good attitude and life is, well good.  Have a bad attitude and life is bad.

We have been talking about how to change your attitude fast.

The first part of all this attitude changing challenge was to get us to be aware of our attitudes.  How we think of ourselves and others.  What goes on in our heads as we go through the day.  Becoming self-aware.

Knowing where you are helps you plot a course to where we want to go.

Hopefully you are very aware of your thoughts and how they make your attitude.  And in the last couple of, posts we have talked about how to change your attitude fast.  It does not take years to build a better attitude.  At least it doesn’t have to.  You just have to work at it.

Today we will talk about another way to change your attitude fast.

Metaphors can motivate us to get things done.  They can also influence our attitude and our actions.

Metaphors are the pictures we make in our heads and can ignite our emotions and influence our actions.

For this reason we want to be aware of the metaphors that we use and how they may be shaping our attitudes.

You want to use the ones that empower you to action.

The type of metaphor you use can change your attitude very quickly.  So, if you want to make change pick better metaphors.  What might be a negative metaphor for you could motivate someone else.  You have to be the one that decides which ones work for you.

Think about these metaphors and how, if they were yours, you would act.

Business is war.

Life is a battle.

Only the strong survive.

It’s a dog eat dog world.

Up a stream without a paddle.

It’s your are them.

Time is our enemy

I think a person that uses those types of metaphors on a regular basis might not be as happy or as productive as they can be.  I can see using a few of them in certain situations to get a point across but if they are the way you think about life, well then I think there might be some need of some adjustment in your outlook.

Contrast the ones above with these.

Grab the bull by the horns.

Laughter is the music of the soul.

One step at a time.

What you give, you get.

The mind is like a parachute. It doesn’t work unless it’s open.

The point is that the way you phrase things and how you make metaphors about situations can influence your attitude and your actions.  Why not take a little time and see if you can alter a few of the ones that are not working for you and see if you can find a better one.

Maybe business is war, but it also could be a chess match or a game.

Take a few minutes and write out your metaphors.  Take a good hard look at them.  Then, if you think it is appropriate change the more negative ones to more positive ones.  And see if your attitude changes along with them.

Because if you believe it really is a dog eat dog world, then everyone is a dog and that is not a world I choose to see.






Morning Mindset – How to Change Your Attitude

Morining QuestionsThis month at our kung-Fu school, we are working on our 30 day attitude challenge 2.0.

We got such great results we decided to do it again.  This time with a little more detail and more resources.

We are now on day 8.

I think the fastest way to change a bad attitude to a better one is to change your mindset.  And one of the fastest way to change your mindset is to ask yourself empowering questions.  See the previous article for more detail her at: Mindset it’s What Makes the Difference.

One good way to get into the habit of this and start your day off right is your morning ritual.  Do you have one?  If you do the same thing every morning, then you do.  The time you spend from getting out of bed to getting your morning started can be a great place to build in a ritual that will serve you and help you change your attitude for the better.

I use to, for many years, have one that I thought was pretty good.  Basically, I would get up, go the bathroom, go to the kitchen and make myself a big cup of coffee and then go to my computer and start answering and sending emails.  I would have about 3 cups of coffee (my wife says it was more like 5) then hit the shower and get to the school to start my classes.

It served me pretty well.  But one day I got up and thought to myself, “Can I do better than this?”.  Having never been a morning person this routine seemed to work for me, but I thought it worth a try.

So, I changed it.  I rebuilt it.  I knew giving up coffee, after taking it up more than 30 years ago and living in Seattle was not going to be easy.  I would need to replace it with something.  I decide on herbal tea.  But I knew that would not be enough and I since I used the coffee to wake up while doing my email I needed something else.  So I added a morning walk to it.  1.2 miles to be exact.

The first day I gave up coffee, I had a headache from @#$#.  It was a Wednesday.  And I think I took it out on my kung Fu students that came to that day’s class.  But that was it.

Now it has been a daily habit of mine for the last four months to get up, fix me a hot glass of herbal tea, put it in a travel mug and take a morning walk.  Then I come back home energized and in a great mood.  Then I sit down and do my morning stuff.

What I have found is that my mindset changes during the walk and I don’t need the caffeine.  In fact, I don’t have the drop in energy during the day.  At all.  It changed my mood and my outlook.  I also lost those last five pounds.

Anyway, back to how to change your attitude by changing your mindset.

After I changed my morning ritual my instructor got this idea about doing a 30 day attitude challenge.  Basically, it was trying to keep a good attitude and do good for 30 days and see what would happen.

I thought it was a good idea so we did it.  It worked.  Now we are in stage two.

What we had to do was say, do or think of one positive thing about ourselves or others each day.  Post it somewhere if we wanted to.

What I started doing was thinking about this every morning before I got up.  Then I thought about it on my walk.  And slowly my attitude started to change.  I just became more positive.  I guess you are what you think about.

The days got better and I got happier.  So did my instructor.  The proof was in the fact that our school also improved.  In the month that we both did this little experiment all of our stats went up.  Every one of them.  And we had a blast.  We both showed up an hour early because we wanted to get things done.

This brings me to the power of thought and how it shapes your life.  Questions are the answer.  Ask empowering questions, questions that give you answers that you can take action on.  And stop the why questions and the negative ones that disempower you.

Once you ask a question your mind will start the search for an answer.  It can’t help it.  Take this question a father might ask his son.

“Son, why don’t you focus and do your homework?”

Well the son’s mind is going to start answering that question and most of the answers will not be ones he can take action on.

Some of the answers might be:

I don’t like it.

It’s boring.

I am stupid.

It’s too hard.

I can’t remember to do it.

But if the dad would ask the right question in the right way, they both could learn something and figure out how to move ahead.

A Question like:

“Son, how can we learn to focus a bit more and create a system to start to help you get your homework done and take some of this stress off you?”

Each answer you will get will be something you can take positive action on.

Well, this is what I started doing in the morning before I got out of bed.  I started asking myself what positive thing I was going to do today that would help me or someone else out.  Then I went about my business.  It took about 17 days before I noticed I had a permanent change in my attitude.  No, I am no saint and I still have bad moments.  But far less of them.

Benjamin Franklin had his morning and evening questions.  You can start with those.  But I would come up with a few more that really motivates you.  Write them out and read them every morning and evening.  Then pay attention to the types of questions you are asked, and that you ask.  Also the self-talk.  Are they questions that you can take action on and move forward or do they just get your mind to come up with negative statements that make you feel like a failure?

Once you get this you can change your mindset fast.  Which will change your attitude and your outlook.

We have challenges not problems.

We have opportunities not issues.

We get feedback not failure.