Many people go through life with either a fixed mindset or a Growth mindset. A fixed mindset is where things are just the way they are and that’s life. If you have a fixed mindset then things are mostly out of your control and unchangeable. You can tell by what you say to yourself and others.
That is just the way things are.
I was born like that.
You can’t teach an old dog new tricks.
That’s not me.
In other words, the world just seems to control you and you can’t change because that is just the way it is.
This of course is nothing more than a learned behavior and totally untrue and very harmful for your growth.
Having a fixed mindset means that you are pretty much stuck with the way you are right now and that’s how it’s going to be.
On the other hand, there is the growth mindset.
A growth mindset means that you can change and grow and that you are not stuck. You are not the person you were yesterday and you can do what you put your mind too.
The first step is to figure out which mindset you have. If you have a fixed mindset then we need to change that to a growth.
An excellent book on the subject is – Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. You can get it at any bookstore and it has some very good advice in it.
Since we are talking about attitude and how to change it, we can change our attitude by changing our mindset. And changing our mindset does not have to take years or tons of study. You just have to decide that you need a new and improved attitude and that you are going to do something about it.
Is the glass half empty or half full? By changing your mindset you can quickly change the way you think and feel about a situation which can change the way you do things.
One very quick way to change your mindset is to change the types of questions you ask yourself or your team. You first need to be aware of them. So, pay attention every time you state a question.
Asking what’s wrong or asking what’s right with something changes your outlook and most likely you results. Your motivation gets sapped when you ask the wrong types of questions. But on the other hand, the right questions can motivate you to do something about the situation and can make success a little easier to achieve.
Start asking yourself empowering questions.
Asking how can we make the best of this, is much different than asking yourself, “Why does this always happen to me?”
Quality questions can change a negative into a positive, or at least come close, in seconds.
Remember, when you ask a question the mind starts looking for answers. And you are going to get answers. Which will lead you to action. So, why not make the question into a positive one and take positive action?
For the next little while pay very close attention to the types of questions you ask yourself and notice if they empower and challenge you, or do they do the opposite?
Here is one example from my own life.
Why am I so disorganized?
It is the way I was brought up.
Because I work with people who can’t put things back where they got them.
I don’t know how to organize.
I have too much to do and not enough time to do it.
I ask a question, I get the answer. But where in those answers do you see solutions and motivation? You don’t. It just gets you more depressed and I can guarantee you that it will not get you (me) organized.
How about this.
How can I get myself more organized in a way that will help me save time and effort so that I can spend more time doing things that I like and not looking for things all the time?
I am not going to answer that here because I think you get the point. One gives me nothing the other gives me solutions, actions and motivates me to take the action.
One of the fastest ways I know how to get things done and change my attitude is to focus on the types of questions I am asking and change them to more action oriented and positive ones.
Try it and see for yourself how fast this works.